Sharing teaches children empathy and let them have the ability of understanding problems from the perspective of others. Sharing also teaches children how to compromise, how to share what they have with others, and this kind of good deeds will return to them rich‘fruits’one day.
In early childhood, toddlers believe that the world revolves around them and that everything that comes into their view belongs to them. Tell children about the consequences of not sharing. With the encouragement and practice of parents, they will accomplish it slowly.
By the age of three, children will gradually understand the concept of taking turns, although tantrums are inevitable, especially if another child takes a toy he or she is looking at or playing with. Their sharing behavior should be gradually cultivated. When they have the practice of playing in turn and playing together at home (many times), children can understand the concept of sharing and waiting.
While most preschoolers understand the concept of sharing in the simplest form, some of them may not be keen on putting this knowledge into action and may be impatient at taking turns. Sharing skills can be further developed by praising preschool children's behavior of taking turns, especially when they do well, and encouraging fair competition. If the child still refuses to share, be sure to let the child be perspective-taking. The final solution is to put the toy back where it was and explain to them that no one can play with it until they learn to share. There may be anger and protest at first, but once they realize it is better to share toys, they learn to cooperate and compromise.
In these collaborative games, players need to cooperate to achieve a common goal. For example, playing children’s wooden puzzles together, planting flowers, bathing pets, etc. In addition, also give children something to share with their friends from time to time. For example, take a special snack to kindergarten, or wooden Rubik's cube to share with other children.
If a child does not share toys and he/she will be punished, or he/she is forced to give something he likes to others, it will only cultivate the child's resentment, not generosity. Encouraging sharing should be emphasized positively, not admonished. It does not matter if a child does not want to share something at first. As he is becoming mature, he will understand that sharing is happier than having it alone.
If children argue about toys, parents should help them figure out what is going on. If a child is holding something tightly, the parent should explain what the child may think to other children. In addition, also help the child to express his feelings.
If a child clings to the personalized wooden train his little friend wants, he may not have the concept of sharing toys at all. At this time, the child and his friends can be encouraged to take turns playing with kids wooden train. Timers can be applied to stop arguing and ensure fair play. Set the timer to 2 minutes. When it alarms, the toy will be passed on to the next child for the same amount of time.
Before the children come to play at home, ask the child if there is anything he is not willing to share, and help him put away those special toys. Then let him think about what he thinks is fun to play with his friends, such as wooden playhouse kits, toy walkie talkie, wooden toy shop, plaster, wooden building blocks and sports goods, etc.
If the little guy does not think others will cherish his clothes, books, toys, he will be unwilling to share them with others, even for a while. So when borrowing his colored pencil, magic wood toys or wooden educational toys, ask for his consent and give him the right to refuse. Make sure that siblings, friends, and nannies (if any) respect his things and ask the child in advance if they need.
The best way to make a child learn to be generous is to let him witness this quality with his own eyes, so parents should share ice cream, scarves, new hats, wooden animal dominoes and so on with children. Of course, it also includes things that can not be seen or touched (such as feelings, thoughts, stories). Children can learn from observing mom and dad's behavior.
Improving oneself is always the quickest way to educate children. When it comes to sharing toys, the most important thing is to let children see the behavior of parents in giving, obtaining, compromising and sharing with others.